\u00a0\u00a0 Pro oboustrann\u011b funguj\u00edc\u00ed vztah mezi matkou a dcerou hraje d\u016fle\u017eitou roli ot\u00e1zka, jestli a jak prob\u011bhlo obdob\u00ed separace. Je to doba mezi 20 a 30 lety v\u011bku mlad\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka, kdy doch\u00e1z\u00ed k\u00a0vnit\u0159n\u00edmu odpout\u00e1n\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte od sv\u00fdch rodi\u010d\u016f. Tehdy se d\u00edvka mus\u00ed psychicky postavit na sv\u00e9 vlastn\u00ed nohy, otev\u0159\u00edt se dosp\u011bl\u00e9mu \u017eivotu, nau\u010dit se n\u00e9st odpov\u011bdnost za sv\u00e9 jedn\u00e1n\u00ed, nau\u010dit se vymezovat hranice v\u016f\u010di druh\u00fdm lidem v\u010detn\u011b sv\u00fdch rodi\u010d\u016f. Mnoho psychick\u00fdch probl\u00e9m\u016f v\u00a0tomto v\u011bku, jako nap\u0159. \u00fazkosti, fobie, paniky, deprese souvis\u00ed s\u00a0naru\u0161enou separac\u00ed, p\u0159i\u010dem\u017e z\u00e1klady obt\u00ed\u017e\u00ed jsou polo\u017eeny v\u00a0d\u011btsk\u00e9m v\u011bku.<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0 Jedna z\u00a0p\u0159\u00ed\u010din br\u00e1n\u00edc\u00ed zdrav\u00e9 separaci je kamar\u00e1dsk\u00fd vztah mezi matkou a dcerou. Matka se sv\u00e9 dce\u0159i sv\u011b\u0159uje se sv\u00fdmi starostmi, osobn\u00edmi v\u011bcmi, nez\u0159\u00eddka i sexu\u00e1ln\u00edm \u017eivotem. Vypad\u00e1 to sice jako velk\u00e1 d\u016fv\u011bra mezi matkou a dcerou, n\u011bco jako privilegovan\u00fd vztah, av\u0161ak pro d\u00edt\u011b (a\u0165 je v\u00a0jak\u00e9mkoliv, i dosp\u011bl\u00e9m v\u011bku) je to v\u017edy obrovsk\u00e1 z\u00e1t\u011b\u017e. Sv\u011b\u0159ovat se m\u00e1 dcera matce, ne matka dce\u0159i. D\u011bje se to \u010dasto proto, \u017ee matka postr\u00e1d\u00e1 vztahy s\u00a0p\u0159\u00edtelkyn\u011bmi, nebo m\u00e1 nefunk\u010dn\u00ed vztah s\u00a0man\u017eelem. Dcera je v\u00a0pozici, \u017ee matku nev\u011bdom\u011b zachra\u0148uje, mysl\u00ed si, \u017ee na n\u00ed z\u00e1vis\u00ed jej\u00ed \u0161t\u011bst\u00ed, pak m\u00e1 pocit, \u017ee matku nem\u016f\u017ee odm\u00edtnout, m\u00e1 pocity viny. D\u00e1t m\u00e1m\u011b jasn\u011b najevo, \u017ee \u00fakolem dcery nen\u00ed \u0159e\u0161it mat\u010diny probl\u00e9my, je t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9, ust\u00e1t si mat\u010diny slzy nebo v\u00fdhru\u017eky je\u0161t\u011b t\u011b\u017e\u0161\u00ed, ale nakonec to p\u0159inese pocity vnit\u0159n\u00ed s\u00edly a svobody.<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0 Dal\u0161\u00ed \u010dastou p\u0159\u00ed\u010dinou naru\u0161en\u00e9 separace je neust\u00e1l\u00e1 touha dcery po l\u00e1sce m\u00e1my, kterou nez\u0159\u00eddka i cel\u00e9 d\u011btstv\u00ed postr\u00e1dala, nebo nedost\u00e1vala v\u00a0pot\u0159ebn\u00e9 m\u00ed\u0159e. Sna\u017e\u00ed se m\u00e1m\u011b ve v\u0161em vyhovovat, b\u00fdt k\u00a0dispozici, pop\u00edr\u00e1 sama sebe. Skryt\u011b douf\u00e1, \u017ee jednou se projev\u016f l\u00e1sky mus\u00ed do\u010dkat. D\u016fvodem, pro\u010d to matka ned\u011bl\u00e1, nen\u00ed to, \u017ee svou dceru nem\u00e1 r\u00e1da, ale jednodu\u0161e \u201eto s n\u00ed neum\u00ed\u201c, proto\u017ee velmi \u010dasto i matka matky se chovala stejn\u011b. Pokud matka nedost\u00e1vala dostate\u010dnou l\u00e1sku od sv\u00e9 matky, t\u011b\u017eko to m\u016f\u017ee poskytovat sv\u00e9 dce\u0159i. \u010celit t\u00e9to skute\u010dnosti je sice velmi bolestiv\u00e9, na druh\u00e9 stran\u011b je to podm\u00ednka, aby se dcera mohla otev\u0159\u00edt t\u011bm, od koho m\u016f\u017ee l\u00e1sku skute\u010dn\u011b dostat (nap\u0159. man\u017eel).\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0 Posledn\u00edm \u010dast\u00fdm probl\u00e9mem v\u00a0r\u00e1mci separace je p\u0159ed\u010dasn\u00e1 dosp\u011blost dcery. N\u011bkdy takto dosp\u011blou dceru chce vid\u011bt matka dokonce u\u017e i od \u00fatl\u00e9ho d\u011btstv\u00ed, n\u011bkdy si to vym\u00e1h\u00e1 dcera sama. Dcera se tv\u00e1\u0159\u00ed a chov\u00e1 nez\u00e1visle, v\u0161echno zvl\u00e1d\u00e1 sama, nikoho moc nepot\u0159ebuje. Nakonec to m\u016f\u017ee v\u00e9st ke zhroucen\u00ed a osam\u011blosti. Uv\u011bdomit si, \u017ee abychom odn\u011bkud mohli odej\u00edt, mus\u00edme tam nejprve p\u0159ij\u00edt, je l\u00e9\u010div\u00e9. Abychom mohli d\u00e1vat, mus\u00edme se nau\u010dit p\u0159ij\u00edmat, a to tak\u00e9 od rodi\u010d\u016f. P\u0159ibl\u00ed\u017eit se ke sv\u00e9 matce (hovorem, up\u0159\u00edmnost\u00ed, str\u00e1ven\u00fdm \u010dasem, nebo doteky \u010di objet\u00edm) umo\u017en\u00ed, \u017ee se dcera bude moci od n\u00ed vnit\u0159n\u011b odpoutat a \u017e\u00edt samostatn\u00fd dosp\u011bl\u00fd \u017eivot.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u00a0\u00a0 Pro oboustrann\u011b funguj\u00edc\u00ed vztah mezi matkou a dcerou hraje d\u016fle\u017eitou roli ot\u00e1zka, jestli a jak prob\u011bhlo obdob\u00ed separace. Je to doba mezi 20 a 30 lety v\u011bku mlad\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka, kdy doch\u00e1z\u00ed k\u00a0vnit\u0159n\u00edmu odpout\u00e1n\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte od sv\u00fdch rodi\u010d\u016f. Tehdy se d\u00edvka mus\u00ed psychicky postavit na sv\u00e9 vlastn\u00ed nohy, otev\u0159\u00edt se dosp\u011bl\u00e9mu \u017eivotu, nau\u010dit se n\u00e9st […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[12],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.terapiehajduk.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/326"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.terapiehajduk.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.terapiehajduk.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.terapiehajduk.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.terapiehajduk.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=326"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.terapiehajduk.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/326\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":329,"href":"https:\/\/www.terapiehajduk.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/326\/revisions\/329"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.terapiehajduk.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=326"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.terapiehajduk.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=326"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.terapiehajduk.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=326"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}